Your Mind Is Sabotaging Your Life.Jun 06, 2022
Your past life experiences play a big role in your personality, your interests, your desires, your values, your triggers and most importantly your subconscious programming.
You are a result of all your experiences. They shape you. Through them you learn & grow.
The subconscious programming that you develop over your life (especially during childhood years) becomes the foundation of who you are, how you think, what you believe, how you approach the world, and how you respond to it.
If you are human, at some point in your childhood you probably experienced one (or maybe even two!) challenging, stressful or traumatic events. Bullying, car accidents, sexual assault, and divorce are all very common experiences that my clients discover are influencing their physical health, mental health, emotional health & spiritual/energetic health.
These experiences drive your brain to respond in ways that keep you safe. Your body is incredibly smart, once you experience pain or discomfort, your body will do everything possible to avoid re-experiencing that pain in the future. You do this by being alert and staying aware of anything that may look or feel similar to the original stressful or traumatic experience. It ends up requiring a lot of energy 24/7 to put up walls to protect yourself.
Sometimes these learned behavior supports you, and other times it hinders your relationship with the people & experiences around you and can create even more stress & challenge in your life.
There is an area of your brainstem called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). The RAS is located at the brainstem and connects the brain to the spinal cord. Many stress physiologists believe this is the bridge connecting the mind & the body as one. This area of your brain is like a filter. It sorts out unnecessary information so the essential stuff can make it through… at least what it thinks is important! The RAS is responsible for arousal & sleep/wake cycles. Ultimately influencing the sympathetic & parasympathetic nervous system response (fight/flight and rest/digest.) The things you focus on most are the things your mind believes to be most important. Therefore the things you are constantly trying to protect yourself from re-experiencing are the exact things you become consumed by.
Have you ever planned to purchase a specific new car and then started seeing that car everywhere on the road? You can thank your RAS for this. The same goes for traumatic experiences & stressful memories. For example, if your husband or wife left you suddenly, your brain is going to constantly be on alert looking for future partners who might do the same.
If you are familiar with the law of attraction which states that like attracts like, you will understand that ultimately this focus will attract partners who are unwilling & unready to commit and who will likely suddenly leave you. Why? Because your RAS is focused on it!
Ultimately, the things you focus on become your reality. The beautiful thing is that you have the choice regarding what you focus on. Your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and emotions all create your reality. Choosing to focus on the positive, high vibrational thoughts, beliefs, feelings and emotions will help you bring positive, high vibrational experiences into your life. Negative, fear based, low vibrational thoughts, beliefs, feelings and emotions will help you bring negative, fear based, low vibrational experiences into your life.
Now, I am not telling you to just stop thinking the negative thoughts and start thinking the positive thoughts... No. That is not how we address the roots of the thoughts & re-wire the subconscious mind. To bring in those higher vibrational thoughts, beliefs, feelings & emotions, you must identify the roots, process the stagnant & low vibrational energy, release it, and pull in the higher vibrations.
Trauma & stressful events lead your brain to think about the experience to avoid re-experiencing, which then brings about the experience because you are thinking about it! Sounds like a cyclic cycle doesn’t it? It is... until you change that!
Well, the incredible thing is that you can train your RAS by shifting your focus. Storywork is a powerful way to shift your focus surrounding stressful & traumatic experiences and re-program the subconscious brain. The goal is to calm the nervous system, and bring about a sense of safety through awareness, pattern interruption and a shift in thoughts & beliefs.
Storywork is an incredible way to support this interrupting & restructuring of thought patterns. Through Storywork I safely guide you through processing the stressful experiences that are keeping you in physical, mental & emotional pain. I support you in getting these experiences written down and reducing the intensity of the experience to the point where you walk away with a different perspective of the actual story, which in turn changes how your mind & body function & respond.
Writing things down creates physical matter out of your thoughts. Once you create matter, you make it matter. Thoughts are truly just energy floating around up in space until you write them down and make them REAL. This also allows you to separate between being the thought/emotion and observing yourself experiencing the thought/emotion. One you can easily become consumed by and the other you are simply observing yourself having an experience.
Storywork helps slow down & break down the thoughts, feelings, emotions & beliefs that are keeping your RAS focused on the negative, low vibrations and redirects the RAS to focus on the positive, higher vibration frequencies. When stuck in the negative, low vibrations, the body stays stuck in a stress response, and leads to mental & physical dis-ease.
Your thoughts, feelings, beliefs & emotions play a significant role on your health & healing. When I am working with clients looking to reduce chronic mental & emotional symptoms, and heal from chronic pain & chronic disease symptoms, we always dive into past stressors & traumatic experiences because without releasing the energetic charges, the body will stay stuck in a stress response, which will perpetuate mental health challenges, chronic disease, chronic inflammation & chronic pain.
In order to support the body through healing, you must release the negative &low vibrating thoughts, feelings, emotions, and beliefs keeping you in that state of fight or flight.
The incredible part is when you shift these perspectives through Storywork, it supports you in improving your relationships, enhancing your joy, breaking through roadblocks, and releasing limiting beliefs. It has the power to change every aspect of your life.
When I found Storywork, I had experience with 20+ years of therapy. One storywork session helped me observe and shift some low vibrational beliefs I had surrounding my father & my trust issues with men. Overnight my relationship with my father & every other man in my life completely changed. And I noticed that the self-sabotaging voice in my head that always seemed to be challenging my every thought & decision… it was no longer yelling. The voice inside my head that made my life so challenging, disappeared.
You have the power to change your thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and emotions which in turn have the power to heal your body, and completely change your life.
If you are still struggling with the voice in your head, struggling to heal your body, and struggling to move through a challenging memory or experience and would like to talk more about how Storywork can help you, fill out this form here.
Your mind may control your body, but YOU have the power over your mind.
The choice is always yours.
Sending you love,
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